My Mother Ann Cary died on July 2nd. She was opened in 1960. She and my dad Chuck Cary were active with Subud for many years, serving as local and regional helpers in the 60’s and 70’s. They also attended the Wisma Subud World Congress in Cilandak Jakarta, Indonesia in 1971. Subud and the Latihan have been an important part of their lives.
Ann D. Cary, (Brueher), died on July 2nd, 2025, in Federal Way, WA. She was
surrounded at the end by family members and the love of many others.
Ann was born Dec. 2nd, 1937, in Aberdeen, WA to Arthur and Bertha Brueher. As the eldest
child and cousin, she was a mainstay of strength in the family. The family moved
around during the war years, but returned to Aberdeen where Ann finished school,
graduating from Aberdeen (Weatherwax) HS in 1955.
Ann’s family was very musical and Ann sang and played piano, as well as classical violin. She would be involved in local symphony orchestras throughout her life.
After high school, Ann attended Grays Harbor CC before transferring to the University of
Washington. There she met the man who would share her life, Robert “Chuck” Cary.
They married in 1957 and would spend the next 67 years together.
Ann was full of life and adventure, she gamely went around the world with Chuck,
representing the United States as he performed his duties as a diplomat for the State
Dept. They lived in Washington DC, Australia, and Germany before leaving the State
Dept. to return to the Pacific NW. They settled in what is now SeaTac, WA and raised
their family. She was adept at learning new skills and eventually took those skills and
started a consulting business with her husband which carried them into their retirement
years.
To many though, Ann’s greatest strength was her capacity to love and create an open
and safe home. She will be remembered for her laugh, her humor, and her hugs.
Committed to family, both she and Chuck would willingly travel to visit loved ones. Over
the years, they spent time with family all around the world and throughout the United
States.
Ann is preceded in death by her parents, Art Brueher and Bertie Elliott, her sister Gail
Ryerson, brother Henry Brueher, and son, David (who died in infancy). She is survived
by her loving husband Chuck, sons Evan (Ratna), Mike (Cindy), Tom (Anne), Steve
(Mari) and daughters Susan Paganelli (Ben), and Lisa Hill (Zach), her brothers, Bob
(Marlene) and Doug (Julie), as well as Chuck’s sisters, Genie and Gloria. Also mourning
her are 20 grandchildren and 5 great-grandchildren, as well as numerous extended
family members and friends.
A memorial service was held on July 27th.
If inclined, donations may be made in her name to Grays Harbor Symphony through the
Bishop Performing Arts Center.
